As part of BDSM play, being slapped hard can evoke fear or excitement. Let me share my experience of being slapped hard to help you understand this often misunderstood and misused aspect of impact play.
Slapping and Safe Impact Play
Slapping is a part of BDSM that can induce fear. When I mention the art of slapping, many people shudder, but overall, those who haven't witnessed it don't realize how magical and beneficial it can be when done well.
Once, my Dom wanted to slap my face to demonstrate the change in my gaze as I entered subspace. Normally, I’m very responsive to my Dom, but this was the first time he put me down in front of so many people (including my husband), which made me quite nervous.
After directing me to sit, the first thing my Dom did was hold my face. I knew what that meant, and it made me uneasy. He then slapped my face a few times. It hurt, but I felt a tingling sensation between my legs. I watched as his posture shifted above me to a completely dominant stance, and then I surrendered.
The Start of Hard Slapping
When I first talked to my Dom, he told me how much he enjoyed slapping women. I felt a chill because I imagined him forcefully hitting some poor girl, turning her head aside with force, and I didn’t want any part of that. He would talk about how thrilling it was and how quickly women would fall, but I was skeptical.
In the past, people had tried to slap me hard, but it never succeeded. Afterward, my jaw always hurt, or I simply didn’t fall down. The first time my Dom slapped me, I instantly loved it. This wasn’t just because he was my Dom; my passion for slapping and its effectiveness arose not only from him being the slapper but also from me being the one being slapped. Once I realized this wasn’t just a simple “slap you,” my enthusiasm for slapping began!
The Art of Slapping
My Dom taught me that when slapping hard, aim is crucial, and it’s important to hold the submissive’s other cheek to avoid injuring their neck. He said to strike with the base of the fingers rather than the palm, as the palm delivers more force. He also advised to target the fleshy parts of the cheek or cheekbone—avoiding the jaw or around the ear to prevent eardrum rupture. Each slap is done with great care, and the slapper must maintain complete control. When done correctly, it should produce a striking sting, and a red cheek is an added bonus.
Slapping a submissive hard is a quick way to assert control over them. However, for those new to hard slapping, if your hand hurts while slapping, it’s likely too hard. The thigh is also a suitable target for slapping, but slapping is an art. When I walk past, a slap on my bottom brings giggles, but when I’m kneeling, it’s not just my bottom that makes me feel uneasy and flushed. Pulling someone over your knee can also provide support.
The reason hard slapping is so magical and powerful is the degree of control the slapper exerts. Being slapped is humiliating, but when done right, it builds a significant level of trust in a swift motion because the control required establishes this trust. Slapping is an art; it’s a skill that requires practice, confidence, and extreme control.