When your submissive might struggle too much, or you simply want to teach them a twisted lesson that requires free hands, bondage becomes essential. You can tie someone to a bed or another stable object, or bind their limbs together to keep them still.
Although handcuffs have a notorious reputation among beginners, the reality is that hard metal can chafe exposed skin and quickly become unbearable. Kinksters in the BDSM community are more likely to opt for less harmful materials like cotton, silk, or soft rope for the pleasure of bondage and fetish play.
Five Basic Bondage Techniques Everyone Should Know
Ankle to thigh
Ankle to Thigh This type of binding is easy to achieve and can greatly increase lower body sensitivity. It’s sometimes referred to as frog tying or thick-leg binding because it creates a squatting position. To secure the ankle to the thigh, bend the leg backward and wrap the binding from top to bottom. A few knots along the outer edge can keep it in place. The aim is to press the heel against the buttocks. As a bondage technique, if it excites both of you, this tie can be combined with devices like spreader bars to force the legs open.
Wrists and upper arms tied behind the back
Wrists and Upper Arms Bound Behind the Back Be cautious, as this restraint can be tricky, and the bound person may quickly lose sensation in their hands, so be prepared to release them quickly if necessary. Start below the shoulders and bind the arms together with a spiral wrap extending to the wrists. This pose will push their chest forward, putting them in a naturally submissive position. Watching them squirm can be quite erotic. If you're feeling particularly wicked, you can have your partner perform humiliating tasks, like licking your boots or lapping up a dish of milk, to heighten the eroticism.
Binding
Hogtie Hogtying is one of the most commonly used bondage positions among rope enthusiasts. It severely restricts movement, making it impossible to resist. Have the submissive lie on their stomach, side, or back, binding their ankles to their wrists behind them. To spread the legs, tie each ankle and wrist separately, or extend the distance between them to allow for more movement. This position is great for exploiting exposed body parts for BDSM fun. As a bondage method, you can use feathers for tickling or a paddle for spanking, depending on your preference.
Wrists to upper arms
Wrist to Upper Arm Securing a submissive’s wrists to their upper arms is a great way to explore BDSM fantasies. Binding someone in this way is simple. Bend the elbow, then secure the wrist to the upper arm. Once bound, you can play out teasing fetish scenarios on the bed. As a restraint method, you can set your submissive an almost impossible task, like fetching you a glass of water—or any other challenge you enjoy.
Basic chest strap
Basic Chest Harness The basic chest harness is the last of our five primary bondage ties. Rope harnesses can be as elaborate or simple as you need. As you become more confident with rope techniques, this can also be combined with chest or crotch restraints. Using both ends of the rope, wrap it around the chest twice, passing above and below the nipples, then loop it around the back. Next, go over both shoulders, passing under the lower chest strap, and finally secure both ends at the back. The harness allows the submissive to move their body. You can add another rope as a leash, making it easy to control them. Being allowed to move but not too far can trigger an adrenaline rush, especially if your submissive enjoys struggling or attempting to escape.
Bondage Safety Tips—Be Aware! Bondage inherently carries risks, but that doesn’t mean anyone has to get hurt while engaging in kink. Ensure your bondage follows a plan. Discuss each move with your partner beforehand. Respect their boundaries and use safe words during play. When tying someone up, ropes can be relatively tight but must leave enough space to fit two fingers underneath so as not to cut off circulation. Finally, once you’ve bound your sexy playmate, never leave them alone; they’ve surrendered to you, and your job is to keep them safe.